|Your Kids Vs Pornography
How to Stop Your Kids from Viewing Pornography
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The short answer: You can't. They're going to view it anyway somehow.
But you can restrict their access to it on a regular basis so that they're not looking at it constantly. Here is our list of ways how:
#1. Don't allow them to have a computer in their room. Put the computer in the family room, living room or a room where people are constantly walking into or through. (But not the hallway, because that's just plain silly.) The purpose of this is to take away internet viewing privacy. Your kids still have privacy in their bedrooms but at least you know they won't be viewing porn in their bedroom.
#2. No webcams. This is a BIG issue. Webcams are the #1 way for pedophiles to view your kids (because sooner or later they'll be naked in front of their webcam). By eliminating the webcam you have managed to cut in half the chances of your kid making/viewing webcam porn.
#3. Talk to your kids about porn. Ask what they think about it. Explain your position on them looking at or watching porn. (IE. You're grounded if I catch you!) Nothing weirds your kids out more than their parents talking about sex. But you should talk about it, and you should also take the time to explain the differences between illegal porn (kiddie porn, rape, snuff, etc), hardcore pornography, softcore pornography and erotica. Most parents consider erotica to be acceptable at after a certain age because its the most artistic. What age you decide is acceptable is up to you. We recommend 16+.
#4. Buy a Porn Magazine you approve of and stick it in your underwear drawer. This is harder than it sounds (no pun intended). It can be quite difficult for some people to find a porn magazine they actually think is good and the next question is whether you think that same magazine is suitable for your kids to look at. The idea behind this is to deliberately leave a porn magazine in your room for your kids to find, which will hopefully satisfy their curiousity and also give them a frame of reference of what is acceptable (by your own standards). A good standard magazine to use is Playboy and Playgirl, which is the most tame and softcore of all the magazines.
#5. Catch your kids in the act. Catching your kids looking through your underwear drawer may sound sneaky and underhanded [because it is!], but its one way to bring up the topic. See #3 above. Also you've just managed to embarass you kids, which means they'll be paranoid about you catching them again in the future.
#6. Be Proactive. Keep track of who is your kid's best friends are and keep an eye out for them looking at porn. You have a responsibility to both your kids and the kids of other parents whenever they visit your house. Hopefully other parents will do the same. Don't bother breaching the topic with other parents unless they bring up the topic first.
#7. Software & Parental Control. Restricting what your kids can see using parental control software doesn't work. Your kids are smart enough to know how to disable it or bypass it. For example, they could just download a different web-browser and use that instead of Internet Explorer. Or a P2P (Peer to Peer) program that trades pictures. Or they could download the files without actually viewing them and then view them offline in a secret hidden folder. Or they can receive them in their email inbox. There are literally a myriad different ways to go around parental control programs. Sometimes they will even be viewing it by accident. So why bother? Well, parental controls can limit how much they will be seeing. They will be seeing porn, thats pretty much a guarantee. Your job is to limit how much they see so they don't become a promiscuous slut (we use the term slut and apply it to both males and females to describe ANYONE who behaves a slutty fashion, regardless of gender).
#8. Remove Unwanted Magazines/Images/Movies Invading your kids privacy may upset your kids, but if you remove something they know shouldn't be there (and would be embarrassed about talking about) the odds are stacked in your favour that your kids won't mention the topic to you at all. Simply removing the images, magazines or whatnot and NOT talking about it means that you aren't punishing them, but you are making your rules silently known. Imagine your kid's surprise when they come home from school and find their stash of nude Paris Hilton photos missing. Will they mention it to you or avoid the subject for fear of punishment/embarrassment? Chances are they will avoid the subject and be secretly pissed off at you for taking away your stash, but grateful that you didn't punish them.
#9. Stop to appreciate art. Its difficult for art to compete with pornography (porn is obviously more exciting), but if you give your kids something else to look at instead of pornography maybe they will spend more time looking up famous masters instead of looking at porn (although admittedly many famous masters did nudes).
#10. Be a Guide, Not a Dictator. Remember that when your children enter their teen years that they are going to rebel against you. You can't stop them from having sexual feelings and repressing them will only make them worse. You don't want your kid to end up like Jeffrey Dahmer, but you don't want them to become a prostitute before the age of 18 either. Your solution? Be a rolemodel and a guide. Set rules and enforce them, but don't be an asshole about it.