|The Lolita Complex:
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Sex in Hollywood: Sue Lyon, Dominique Swaine, Brooke Shields, Mena Suvari, The Olsen Twins & Britney Spears
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Before I continue I want to make clear my own experience (or lack thereof) with younger women. Call it a brief history of my sexual experience. I lost my virginity when I was 18 with a girl who was 16. She was several years more experienced than I was and had been abused by an older man when she was much younger. During the latter part of highschool and during university I have been with many women in my own age group. I met one young woman in highschool who told me she had been anally raped by her foster-brother and her foster-father when she was 12 years old. As the years went by I heard more and more stories of sexual abuse, incest and rape. I discovered that many women had been abused at one time or another. The statistics are appalling. Two out of every three women have been sexually abused or even raped. The statistics are unbelievable. Therefore I do have some understanding of what happens when young women are abused.
I must also admit I have a fondness for large breasts, I own every Russ Meyer and James Bond movie ever made, and that I prefer women in my own age group because they are more mature (and have the breasts to match). I probably should be writing something about "the male fascination with large breasts", because I am much more well-versed in the topic.
Nevertheless, I want to discuss about the controversial issues of lolitas, underage sex and pedophilia pornography. Issues that people need to talk about, because we see them everyday in advertising. These days its often in the form of some young female (Britney Spears or whomever) selling Pepsi, the latest mp3 player or even birth control pills. The idea is simple: Sex sells. And more specifically, underage sex or sex with virgins sells.
The idea of the virgin is a simple one. An innocent girl who has never been penetrated by a man. She still has her "cherry".
Before we proceed, lets talk about this cherry idea. For example the band "Cherry Poppin Daddies" brings to mind literally the idea of an older man (a father no less) who goes around having sex with virgins and "popping their cherries". Thus the name of the band is a rather sexual and obscene name, and certainly much more worse than the Canadian band "Barenaked Ladies". In case you aren't familiar with female anatomy, the "cherry" is a slang term for the hymen, a "membranous fold of tissue that partly or completely occludes the external vaginal orifice". When the hymen is broken during sex, the female in question is in theory no longer a virgin.
It is possible to pop a cherry other ways. Some times it is accidental, like sliding down a bannister on a stair case and hitting the bump on the end. And other times girls may decide to deliberately get rid of it while masturbating, so that when do finally meet a boy the sex will be more enjoyable. Obviously it can vary from female to female.
The idea of chasing after or marrying a virgin is fairly basic, in a "Star Trek"/exploration kind of way: To boldly go where no man has gone before!
In biblical times, indeed in the bible itself, marrying a virgin is also a health matter. Sexually transmitted diseases were as much a problem back then as it is now. To some extent, it was even more a problem in the olden days because there were no contraceptives and very little in the way of medical treatment. Thus marrying a virgin was a way of ensuring that the woman in question was free of sexual diseases. She is "pure", innocent, and free from diseases. The same is equally true of the male, but the social stigma for men who have sex out of wedlock is historically much less significant (and basically the result of sexism).
The biblical myth of Mother Mary/Virgin Mary/the Immaculate Conception also stem from the same basic idea that sex is somehow wrong. So much social problems stem from sex: cheating, adultery, wife-beating, sexually transmitted diseases, prostitution, rape, incest, chronic masturbation, sex orgies, nymphomania, satyrism, etc. Combine that with male guilt, female shame, various sexist beliefs stemming from ignorance and religious intolerance, and its no surprise that religious people claim sex is a sin.
But at the same time religious people consider it to be a necessary sin. An act of union in order to create children.
A more modern and scientific viewpoint is that sex is simply natural. It is part of our genetics that we are sexual creatures.
But how does that explain the attraction to younger females?
The answer is three-fold: One part propagation of the species, one part power/domination, and one part modern advertising.
Propagation of the species is an easy enough concept. Men are sex crazed creatures that during their lifetime will usually have sex with multiple women. Men are so obsessed with the idea of sleeping with many women that the so-called "threesome with two women" rates as one of the largest male fantasies of all time (together with that is the idea of orgies and private harems). When multiple women at the same time are not available (as is the case for most men), the "James Bond route" of sleeping with one woman after another is a common enough occurrence for single men (and sometimes even married/divorced men). The basic sexual drive/libido of men is directly related to their ego and their inability to directly reproduce (namely, men are jealous of the female ability to become pregnant and produce children and thus compensate by sleeping with as many women as possible). The fact that sex is so enjoyably addictive is also a factor, leading to nymphomania amongst women and satyrism amongst men.
Power/domination of a younger female is fairly basic. Men tend to prefer younger women for a variety of reasons, but most of all is ego. A young willing female "sex slave" is one of many male fantasies out there, and indeed is a common one. The fact that the male is older and more experienced lends to the idea that she is therefore his inferior, both intellectually and sexually. Ignore the fact that men are generally less mature than women in the first place.
Men prefer blondes, or so some people say. Is this true? And if so, why? Is it because some men feel that blondes are more attractive? Do they think blondes are more innocent looking? Or is it because blondes (according to the stereotype) are simply "dumb blondes"? Any of these reasons or all the above factor into the equation. If you look at the names above, note how many of those celebrity "lolitas" are naturally blonde? All of them. Thus being blonde must be part of the "lolita complex".
Stop for a moment and think about Michael Jackson's song "(Keep It) In the Closet". If you're not familiar with the song, here's the chorus:
Just Promise Me
The song is a metaphor for molesting children and getting them to promise not to tell anyone. Everyone knows Michael Jackson is a child molestor, the problem is that he keeps getting away with it. His frequent visits to Saudi Arabia, Thailand and eastern European countries where child sex rings and child slavery are common have not gone unnoticed by authorities. Sooner or later he is going to get caught.
Being African-American you'd think that Michael Jackson had a better understanding of slavery and what it means to people, and how child abuse is basically a form of sexual slavery. In some countries it is literally slavery and the children are kept locked up, frequently used by sexual predators paying for a chance to have sex with a twelve year old boy or girl.
Gender in this category doesn't matter. "Lolitas" are not just girls. There is a second term here, used more commonly amongst the gay community: "Twinks". Twinks are basically pretty boys and as such are just as likely to fall prey to sexual predators like Michael Jackson/etc.
When a homosexual man "comes out of the closet" and informs everyone that they are gay and proud of it, it specifically refers to the closet as a metaphor for keeping something a secret. In the case of homosexuality, this is something that has become more and more socially acceptable.
In the case pedophiliacs however, there is no coming out of the closet. Abusing children will never be socially acceptable. It can only be understood as abuse because the child in question is too naive to know any better. Regardless of how infatuated or "in love" the child or the pedophile may claim to be, the fact is that the adult is taking advantage of the child's naivete. An older woman would recognize when she is being used and abused. A child's curiousity, naivete and even their ego could easily be taken advantage of by someone with the morals of scoundrel.
As pop culture would inform us, men are often all too willing to be the scoundrel. Sue Lyon and Dominique Swaine in the old and new versions of the movie "Lolita" play young and willful nymphets who seduce an older man, and likewise he seduces her. The older man is plagued by guilt and the fear of getting caught. Brooke Shields in "Pretty Baby" seduces an older photographer whom she becomes infatuated with. He resists for some time, but eventually his lust gets the better of him. His conscience bothers him however and he eventually marries her, only to have her taken away when her parents' finally rescue her.
Likewise, in "American Beauty" Mena Suvari plays the cheerleading best friend of the main character's daughter, and the object of his sexual fantasies. When he finally manages to have his way with her, he discovers she is a virgin and his guilt gets the better of him, and thus his conscience saves him from something he would have regretted later. In these ways Hollywood stresses the immorality of the situation, and yet plays to the sexually charged issue which will draw in the viewers. In a way, Hollywood sucks in the viewer with promises of underage sex, skirts censorship issues by hiring actresses that are 19+ (but look younger), and manages to play preacher at the same time, admonishing the viewer for fantasizing about younger women.
This attraction to younger women is certainly there, but when the female in question is TOO young, then the fetish turns into an unhealthy obsession.
The internet has spawned many problems over the years: Rampant and easy access to personal data, breaches of privacy, spam, internet stalkers, pop-ups, hackers, viruses, a huge internet pornography industry, and of course, pedophilia porn.
We now live in the digital era, in which digital cameras have bypassed the darkrooms and made personal photographs even more personal, and the ability to mass produce and exploit underage girls and boys for the sole purpose of pedophilia.
File-sharing programs, illegal websites and secretive clubs have given rise to the "under-net" or "darknet", where pedophilia pornography, illegal downloading of copywritten files and the sale of personal data is now rampant. You have but to download a file-sharing program like "Kazaa", "Napster" or "Lime-Wire" and you can be downloading movies, music and pictures on almost any topic. Including children being raped.
Controlling the proliferation of such pornography is extremely difficult. Preventing people from sharing or downloading such things is basically impossible. Historically, we can shut programs like "Napster" down, but the users just switch to a newer/better program, and the spread of such porn continues.
Online the word "Lolita" no longer just applies to underage women. It now applies to all women under the age of 30, so it is difficult to discern the exact age. Older women want to look younger and are deliberately dressing like teenagers in an effort to look younger.
Lastly, control of such pornography within the United States has its limitations. According to the Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI) the bulk of such porn is created in Asia, Europe, South America and Russia. Thus, tracking and capturing the people who create such pornography requires the cooperation of many countries.
In China, Thailand and eastern parts of Europe, where sex slavery is rampant, governments simply are not trying very hard to capture sex criminals. Indeed, they may even be supporting the trade in sexual slaves. Sex scandals in Europe has led to the suspicion that government members may actively be engaging in the underground control of women and children sold into slavery. The united European Union may now have a stronger economy and free trade, but they have yet to address issues of criminal activity within their borders.
In China female children are simply unwanted and thus many are sold into slavery (especially in western provinces of China where farm workers are needed). Officially, slavery in China is illegal, and women and men are supposed to be equal, but old traditions die hard. Female children are just as likely to be smothered at birth or sold into slavery.
Thailand has become pedophilia central, the world capitol, specializing in the sale of childish flesh. The government of Thailand does very little to control this problem, knowing their economy is being boosted by sex tourists.
Within these countries, the visitors, the users and the owners all actively exchange child pornography. When it comes to exporting it internationally the internet becomes the obvious mode of communication. Full length movies, videos and photographs become readily available to countries where such filth is stamped out more firmly by government tracking.
Tracking down these criminals is however increasingly difficult. The makers are likely extremely careful when it comes to protecting their whereabouts. The buyers and downloaders likewise try to protect their IP addresses, but within the framework of Napster-ish programs, this becomes very easy.
Child pornography is not the only target that keeps the government watchdogs busy however. Rape videos and videos of people getting killed (snuff) are also becoming huge problems and keeping track of the people who create such filth, and tracking down the people who commit rape or murder takes time and effort.
The problem lies in the fact that the government can shut down Napster-ish programs, but new programs are created daily to replace the old program.
Logistically, most people download music and movies. Its mostly just men who download pornography. The percentage of people who purposely download child porn is likely very small. Many people have likely downloaded at least one piece of child pornography by accident (due to mislabelled files), and so instead of downloading the latest James Bond movie or an episode of the tv show Smallville, they got a teenage boy getting gang-raped by a group of older men. Or a girl from Thailand being abused. Or worse.
The downloading of such porn comes with a problematic question: Do the men who download such porn commit rape or sexual abuse themselves? Or are they just fantasizing and would never do such a thing in real life? Are they pedophiles, or just pedo-voyeurs? Do they create their own, or just download and trade?
And perhaps the biggest question of all: Does internet child pornography promote people to molest children themselves? Obviously a person would have to be extremely obsessed with it to want to risk jail and a lifetime of guilt if they wanted to make their own. Perhaps some of them are just wacko in the first place and feel no guilt. Perhaps they have no shame either.
In our modern day and age, the idea of an "honourable gentleman" has been replaced with ideas of sexually virile men (largely due to Hollywood celebrities). Our sex charged society of breast implants, condom advertisements, beer commercials, penis enlargements and Viagra has created a society in which sex has become the national past-time of the United States. When President Clinton was bombing Kosovo, what did we care about more? The innocent children who were being killed by Clinton's bombs, or Monica Lewinsky sucking the president's dick? The answer is obvious: Monica Lewinsky.
And why was she sucking Clinton's dick in the first place? Where was Hillary?
The answer is simple: Monica was a younger, more attractive woman (and Hillary was too busy). She is a slut, admittedly, but the scenario is common enough. The patriarchal boss fucking the secretary. Her resume likely said something like "highly skilled in oral cummunication" and Clinton hired her immediately just to see if it was a typo.
Lets take another example from celebrities: Actor/movie director Woody Allen.
Woody Allen has a history of younger women in his wake: Harlen Rosen, Louise Lasser, Mia Farrow (who was 21 years younger than him, whom he dated from 1981 to 1992), and then years later he dumped Mia and married Mia's adopted daughter Soon-Yi Previn (who was 35 years younger than Woody Allen). When Woody Allen and Soon-Yi married in 1997, Woody was 62 years old and Soon-Yi was 27. Their relationship however stretches back many years however, and even includes nude photographs that were discovered by Mia in 1992 (and thus ended the relationship). Soon-Yi was 8 years old when Mia adopted her while on a trip to South Korea. Ms Farrow and Woody Allen also have a 2nd adopted daughter, Dylan, who Woody was later accused of "fondling". Dylan changed her name in 1996 to Eliza, and denounced her father, saying that she absolutely hates him. He was then barred from ever seeing her again.
Soon-Yi however is rather close-lipped about exactly when and how Woody Allen and her began having sex and making porn. During the 1990s, it was basically one of the biggest "pre-Clinton" sex scandals. After Clinton however, sex scandals have become commonplace, with embarrassed parents having to explain what "blowjob" means to confused children.
Child-celebrities growing up, the Olsen Twins and Britney Spears is an excellent example of what happens to these "Lolitas" at they get older. Mary-Kate and Ashley (from the sitcom "Full House") have become Hollywood's proverbial "town bicycles", meaning everyone's had a "ride" with them (they admit to numerous relationships, including a much rumoured threesome with actor Robert DeNiro). Meanwhile Britney Spears (of Mickey Mouse Club fame) has later gone on to marry a 'much older rockstar' and make pregnant pornography (borrowing a page from Pamela Anderson's disastrous career). Thus it appears that being a "Lolita" may help someone's career in the short-term, but they result is that will be sexually abused and exploited.
And exploitation is nothing new to Hollywood. Hollywood marriages of older men and very young women are quite common. We just have to look at Tom Cruise and his new young bride Katie Holmes to realize how true it is.
So where does that leave men who sleep with even younger women, below the age of 16? How do we psychoanalyze the how's and why's for why they do that? Are they losers who can't associate with women their own age? Is it about power and control, the true signs of a rapist? Were they sexually abused themselves when they were younger, possibly incest with a cousin, and thus their obsession grew like a disease? Are they merely sick, perverted and crazy, so obsessed with sex that they're desperate enough to sleep with anyone? Is it pure obsession, the result of too much young flesh in the mass media?
My own obsession with large breasts is comparable (and commonplace, since most men can appreciate the beauty of a shapely breast). I like Russ Meyer and James Bond movies, because they show beautiful women (with large breasts) and have a great action-based plot. My girlfriend is not a 38 double D cup, but a very healthy 36 C. Not huge, but certainly not small either. Indeed, I don't think I could date a woman with 38 DD breasts. I think they would be TOO big. Movie director Russ Meyer however was certainly obsessed. As his directing career progressed the breasts in his movies got bigger and bigger and bigger... and were eventually ridiculously huge. That was obsession in the extreme.
But if thats how real obsession works, then how does a pedophile think about children? Do they get younger and younger? Would it get to the point where they are molesting new-born babies? I have no idea. But within the framework of the original "Lolita" idea, the female in question would likely be at least 12 years old (old enough to start growing breasts and start becoming curious about boys). At that age, the "Lolita" might be a willing victim (out of curiousity) and easily abused. A younger age suggests a more aggressive form of rape and kidnapping.
Lets look quickly at the case of convicted teen-rapist/murderer Paul Bernardo. He married a younger woman who was barely out of highschool. Their sex life was reportedly "very active", and after a period of time, his obsession with his younger wife turned to his wife's sister, who was much younger and still in highschool. His wife (willing accomplice or reluctant victim) helped him abduct the younger sister, make videos of them abusing and raping the sister, and then they killed her. Then they did the same thing again. Technically, thats just the two murders that Paul Bernardo was convicted of. There are more murders of teenage girls that disappeared in the region where he lived and their bodies have never been found. Those two murders had the undeniable proof of the video tapes Bernardo and his wife created. They murders and rapes of the missing women is totally unknown.
Jack the Ripper, historically the most famous name for serial murderers also killed young women. Young prostitutes specifically. Did he rape them first, and then cut out their vaginas with a surgical knife? Its possible. Jack the Ripper could very well be the most famous serial "Lolita rapist" and murderer of all time.
And what part does Hollywood, child porn or even this website play in all of this? Hollywood and this website at least talks about the morality of the situation. But there is no warning signs or morality that comes with child porn online. There is no guiding voice that says "Hey, why are you looking at this filth? Why not look at a mature woman who at least has breasts?" Okay, I admit I am biased in this issue. I firmly believe that women your own age (with the breasts to match) is the way to go.
Sadly, there are people out there who prefer children, and their obsession has turned them into very sick individuals.
I would like to take this moment and express my personal belief that we should castrate serial sex criminals. People like Paul Bernardo deserve it.